Time to Calm Down
Stress showed up early! It’s one of those days. You need to calm yourself down. Getting out of the house was a hard sale. Your own kids didn’t want to get out of bed this morning. Traffic was jammed pack and a thirty-minute drive turned into an hour. Stepping into the school, you hear the office secretary call you over the intercom system. Walking to the office to see what’s going on, you’re stopped by a coworker. He wants to know if he can borrow some books from your classroom library. Sure, it’s not a problem and you continue to the office. You feel your shoulders tense up and your head hurts.
Finally, you arrive in the office. The principal and a parent wait to meet with you. The parent is upset about her child’s grade on a test and wants an explanation of your grading process. The students arrive in ten minutes! You are cramped for time. During the meeting, you look at your watch several times. The parent is irate and you can’t seem to appease her. The meeting ends on a negative note. Now, you’re feeling flushed. Your students are coming in the door. Somehow, you need to calm down! Continue reading
Finding One’s Central Understanding of Self
As a kid, you were told by a parent or teacher to “FOCUS!” Your mind wandered off somewhere while you were in class or your mom was telling you something important. You were thinking about something special you wanted to do for yourself or with your friends. As a child, there are no inhibitions to focus on yourself or what makes you happy. A child’s days are filled with self-discovery.
Growing up and becoming an adult with responsibilities changes the concept of focusing on yourself and what makes you happy. Sometimes, adulthood means losing focus of your true self. Are you out of focus? Think about it for a moment! What images of you come to mind? So now look at the word, focus in a different light. Think of it this way: Finding One’s Central Understanding of Self.
Finding One’s Central Understanding of Self simply means discovering who you really are or finding yourself. Other terms you may see or recognize around this topic is Self-Concordance Theory or Individuation. Sometimes who you really are gets lost in translation of the day to day issues and goings on of your life. Or you may think that self-discovery is a selfish goal when you have grown up responsibilities like family, career and more. Sometimes, you may care about what others think about you. However, to be the best person you can be to your spouse, mate, children, friends or co-workers you must know who you are, what is your purpose and what can you offer. Focusing on you is not a sin or a selfish process, but a personal journey.
You wonder where do you begin in this journey called self-discovery. Well, connecting to your inner or true self can begin with these questions.
• Who are you really?
• What do you want or need to change?
• Why do you want or need to change these things in your life?
• Where will change begin?
• When will change begin to happen?
• How do you begin to make changes in your life?